Built to serve - Find your purpose and become the leader you were born to be
How much do I want to read more? 8/10
It seems like this book is made for me. Just because it stats with "What is my purpose".
“Napoleon Hill was the single greatest influence of all time in personal development. Evan is the modern day Napoleon Hill.”
-- Ed Mylett
“If you’re listening to Evan that means you’re into success. If you’re a friend of Evan’s, you’re a friend of mine!”
-- Grant Cardone
WHAT IS MY PURPOSE?
“Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.”
-- John F. Kennedy
By far, the number one question that people ask is some variation of, “What is my purpose?” or “How do I find my passion?”
You are not alone.
homeless, millionaires, stuck on the same problem. Everyone wants to find it. It’s a human need.
You might be fooling the world, but you’re not fooling the person looking back at you in the mirror. You need to find your actual power source.
It’ll fuel you for life. It will force you to morph into a stronger version of yourself.
I’M A SCARED INTROVERT
I hate the spotlight.
I hate the attention being on me. I’m not the life of the party. I don’t talk to the person next to me on an airplane. I never go to networking meetings. I can’t stand small talk.
I’m trying to solve the world’s biggest problem: I want people to #Believe in themselves.
I’m afraid of disappointing people.
The thought that someone would spend money on something I made (like this book!) and not get amazing value from it destroys me.
It took me 350 videos on my YouTube channel before I wasn’t completely embarrassed by myself.
THE WORLD HAS CHANGED
“The sooner we realize that the world has changed, the sooner we can accept it and make something of what we’ve got. Whining isn’t a scalable solution.”
-- Seth Godin
If you’re not happy right now, it’s because you’re not serving enough people.
Who, Why, How - Your journey begins
Step 1: Your Who
You were not meant to live a photocopy of someone else’s life.
What do you stand for? What is your single most important core value? Most people have no idea.
“Who was your favorite teacher growing up? What is your favorite movie of all time? What is your favorite song?”
Everything great that you love is connected.
Finding your most important core value is what I call your Who.
Ex: knowing that you stand for belonging allows you to set a course for your life.
Step 2: Your Why
what the most painful moment of your life was?
your purpose comes from your pain;
your greatest joy in life will come from helping others who currently are going through the pain that you went through.
Your purpose comes from your pain.
Your Who and your Why tell you who you are and your purpose for the rest of your life.
Step 3: Your How
“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”
The final step is finding out how you got through the pain you suffered.
Your How will evolve as technology, markets, and you evolve.
Step 1 - Your Who
“Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace.”
You have one core value that defines who you are. I call it your Who.
People are defined by their values. But you have one core value that is more important than all others. It’s the starting point for all your ideas, actions, and beliefs. If you’re ever in a slump, it’s because you’re living your life inconsistently with your Who, your most important core value.
Most people live on quicksand. Your Who is your rock.
Suddenly you have clarity about your direction. You stop being pulled into other people’s agendas because you have your own map now.
You know what the right thing to do is because your Who demands it. Having clarity over who you are is your source of power.
What Makes You Happy?
- Who was your favorite teacher growing up and why?
- What is your favorite movie of all time?
- What do you love most about how your parents raised you?
- Which successful person do you look up to as a role model and why?
- For your kids (current or future), what lessons do you want to make sure they understand?
What makes you happy?
Personally, my best moments were moments of friendship. With one of my best friend, Yannick, then with my father, such a wonderful person, then with my little brother, and with another best friend, Florent. I cannot count anyone more. They were 4. I had great moments with a few other person too.
All my best moments on earth has been shared with them. With the quality of our relationship, our complicity.
Your favorite teacher?
I don't have one best teacher. I certainly had a few good teachers and lots of bad one.
Mme Barbeau, french teacher. She had a sense of appreciation for great human characters throughout litterature. She pushed me to write and explore myself.
Mme Bouchy, math teacher. She was very strict but in a good way. Very well structured, flawless. Very attentive to every student in the class.
Overall, I appreciate and respect people for their calm, for the quality of attention they bring to the students, for how sensitive they are, for the world they are living in, and sharing it with us.
Hard to choose. I used to like Superman. Action movie, adventure. Super heroes. Rocky. The kind of movie when the regular guy train to go above the best in his field. It just gives a sense of what's possible for me I guess.
Shaolin movies, Gladiator. I like to see the journey of someone pushing himself to the limit.
The freedom they gave me. The attention. The praise. The love. Being appreciative and supportive for my qualities.
Many I guess. Martin Latulippe. Jim Rohn. Marshal Rosenberg. Osho. Olivier Rolland. Anthony Nevo.
Lessons for kids?
Don't make a living to live. Live first. Don't waste your life being someone you're not. Be yourself.
All the great things in your life are connected. Your job is to find what that connection is.
what stands out? What single most important core value do they all have in common?