The 5 Second Rule - Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
How much do I want to read more? 8/10
It looks very simple and yet powerful. This is the kind of thing where the slightest move can make the biggest impact.
I'm not sure how the author managed to make a 220 pages book out of a three lines principle.
Courage is the ability to do things that feel difficult, scary, or uncertain.
It isn’t reserved for just a chosen few.
Courage is a birthright. It’s inside all of us.
And it’s waiting for you to discover it.
One moment of courage can change your day. One day can change your life. And one life can change the world.
That’s the true power of courage; it reveals you. The greatest version of you.
PART 1 - THE 5 SECOND RULE
CHAPTER ONE - FIVE SECONDS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE
You are about to learn something remarkable—it takes just five seconds to change your life.
You change your life one five- second decision at a time. In fact, it’s the only way you change.
When I used the Rule for the very first time seven years ago, I thought it was silly.
What’s happened to me since discovering the 5 Second Rule and the power of five second decisions is unbelievable.
rom my confidence to my cash flow, my marriage to my career, and my productivity to my parenting. I have gone from bouncing checks to seven figures in the bank and from fighting with my husband to celebrating 20 years of marriage. I’ve cured myself of anxiety, built and sold two small businesses, been recruited to join the teams at CNN and SUCCESS magazine, and I’m now one of the most-booked speakers in the world. I’ve never felt more in control, happy, or free.
The 5 Second Rule changed everything … by teaching me just one thing: HOW to change
Using the Rule, I replaced my tendency to overthink the smallest moves with a bias toward action. I used the Rule to master self-monitoring and become more present and productive. The Rule taught me how to stop doubting and start believing in myself, my ideas, and my abilities. And, the Rule has given me the inner strength to become a better and much happier person, not for others, but for me.
The Rule helps her stop thinking about how “intimidating” it is to sell and gives her the courage to just start selling.
Your life requires courage. And that is exactly what the Rule will help you discover—the courage to become your greatest self.
You have greatness inside of you. Even at your lowest point, greatness is there. The Rule will give you both the clarity to hear that greatness and the courage to act on it.
I had spent years thinking about and making excuses for. Only through action have I unlocked the power inside of me to become the person that I’ve always wanted to be.
I’ve built Real Confidence by learning how to honor my instincts with action so that they come to life in the real world.
each time you use it, you take one step closer to being the person you are truly meant to be. I have changed from the kind of person who just thinks about my ideas to having the confidence to share, act on, and pursue them. If you use the Rule consistently and you honor your instincts with action, the exact same transformation will happen to you.
In five seconds flat, I’d decide to stay quiet, to wait, and not to risk it. I’d have an instinct to act and within five seconds my mind would kill it with doubt, excuses, worry, or fear. I was the problem and in five seconds, I could push myself and become the solution. The secret to change had been right in front of my face the entire time—five seconds decisions.
change comes down to the courage you need every day to make five second decisions.
You Are One Decision Away from a Completely Different Life
In five seconds flat, you made, what I call, a “heart- first decision.” You ignored your fears and let your courage and your confidence speak for you. Five seconds of courage makes all the difference.
as a “no brainer”—because when you act with courage, your brain is not involved. Your heart speaks first and you listen.
- The ability to do something that is difficult or scary
- Stepping outside of your comfort zone
- Sharing your ideas, speaking up, or showing up
- Standing firm in your beliefs and values
- And some days…getting out of bed.
CHAPTER TWO - HOW I DISCOVERED THE 5 SECOND RULE
I knew what I needed to do but I couldn’t make myself take action. And that’s the thing that makes changing so hard. Change requires you to do things that feel hard and scary. Change requires courage and confidence—and I was tapped out of both.
What I did do was spend a lot of time thinking. Thinking made everything worse. The more I thought about the situation that we were in, the more afraid I felt. That’s what your mind does when you focus on problems—it magnifies them. The more I worried, the more uncertain and overwhelmed I became. The more I thought, the more paralyzed I felt.
The moment I woke up, I had to face reality: my life was a nightmare. I was 41, unemployed, in financial ruin, struggling with a drinking problem, and had zero confidence in my or my husband’s abilities to fix our problems.
And here’s the kicker: I knew what I needed to do to start my day right. I needed to get up on time, make breakfast, and get the kids on the bus. Then I needed to look for a job. It’s not like I had to climb Mount Everest. However, the fact that it was simple stuff actually made it worse. I had no legitimate excuse for why I couldn’t get it done.
My self-confidence was in a death spiral. If I couldn’t even get up on time, how the heck could I have faith in myself to fix the bigger financial and marriage problems that Chris and I faced?
The reason that I didn’t get out of bed was simple: I just didn’t feel like it. I would later learn that I was stuck in what researchers call a “habit loop.” I had hit the snooze button so many mornings in a row the behavior was now a closed-loop pattern encoded in my brain.
Then one night, everything changed.
I was about to turn off the TV and head to bed when a television commercial caught my attention. There on the screen was the image of a rocket launching. I could hear the famous final five-second countdown, 5- 4- 3- 2- 1, fire and smoke filled the screen, and the shuttle launched.
I thought to myself, “That’s it, I’ll launch myself out of bed tomorrow…like a rocket. I’ll move so fast I won’t have time to talk myself out of it.” It was just an instinct. One that I could have easily dismissed. Luckily, I didn’t. I acted on it.
The fact is, I wanted to solve our problems. I didn’t want to destroy my marriage or keep feeling like the world’s worst mom. I wanted to be financially secure. I wanted to feel happy and proud of myself again.
This instinct to launch myself out of bed was my inner wisdom talking. Hearing it was a tipping point.
Your instincts may seem stupid in the moment, but when you honor them with deliberate action, it can change your life.
Subconsciously, my brain was signaling me to pay attention to this rocket launch on TV. In that five- second moment, my brain was sending me a very clear set of instructions:
ay attention to that rocket launch, Mel. Grab the idea. Believe in it. And do it. Don’t stop and think. Don’t talk yourself out of it. Launch yourself out of bed tomorrow, Mel.
When it comes to goals, dreams, and changing your life, your inner wisdom is a genius. Your goal-related impulses, urges, and instincts are there to guide you. You need to learn to bet on them.
I feel so thankful that I listened to my dumb idea about launching myself out of bed like a rocket because everything in my life changed as a result of it. Here’s what happened.
I did not want to wake up. I thought about the rocket launch and I immediately felt like it was stupid. Then, I did something that I had never done before—I ignored how I felt. I didn’t think. I did what needed to be done.
Instead of hitting the snooze button, I started counting. Backwards. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. And then I stood up.
The 5 Second Rule
The moment you have an instinct to act on a goal you must
and physically move or your brain will stop you.
CHAPTER THREE - WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT WHEN YOU USE IT
It matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be.
-- J.K. Rowling