How to Stay Sane - The school of life

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This book is about being reflective, being aware of what's happening indide of us, and act on it in a positive way.


This book is about how to stay on the path between those two extremes, how to remain stable and yet flexible, coherent and yet able to embrace complexity.

Three Brains in One

The brain stem (reptilian) will not help you do Sudoku but at a basic, essential level, it keeps you alive, allows you to function and keeps you safe from many kinds of danger.
mammalian, or right, brain.
neo-mammalian, or left, brain.

In our first two years, the right brain is very active while the left is quiescent and shows less activity.
However, in the following few years development switches; the right brain’s development slows and the left begins a period of remarkable activity.

Our ways of bonding to others; how we trust; how comfortable we generally feel with ourselves; how quickly or slowly we can soothe ourselves after an upset have a firm foundation in the neural pathways laid down in the mammalian right brain in our early years.
most of our emotions and our instincts: attunes to and relates to others.

Left: the primary language, logic and reasoning structure of our brain.

‘self-observation’, ‘relating to others’, ‘stress’ and ‘personal narrative’.
These are areas that we can work on ourselves.

1. Self-Observation

Socrates stated that ‘The unexamined life is not worth living.’
When we practise self-observation, we learn to stand outside ourselves.
It gives us space to decide how to act and is the part of us that listens to and brings together our emotions and logic.

2. Relating to Others

We all need safe, trusting, reliable, nourishing relationships.

3. Stress

The right kind of stress creates positive stimulation. It will push us to learn new things and to be creative.

4. What’s the Story? (Personal Narrative)

If we get to know the stories we live by, we will be able to edit and change them if we need to. Because so much of our self is formed pre-verbally, the beliefs that guide us can be hidden from us.

1. Self-Observation