Inner Excellence - Achieve Extraordinary Business Success through Mental Toughness
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Superb book that encapsulates how to model successful people.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, what- ever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
-- Philippians 4:8
Foreword - Jim Fannin
As you read this book, you will learn to overcome your fears and embark on a journey of great personal and professional achieve- ment.
Preface - Presuppositions
we can model the thought patterns of remarkable people who live passionately and achieve extraordi- narily.
- Every thought and image in your mind has a consequence.
- The mind and body are intimately connected; each affects the other.
- Development of the whole person (mind, body, and spirit) is the most powerful way to create the best employee, manager, teacher, or athlete.
- We live simultaneously in two worlds: the tangible world we can see, touch, taste, etc., and the unseen world that controls the tangible world. When we learn how these unseen forces shape our lives, we can consistently change our lives and those of others for the better.
- There is no failure, only feedback. The outcome of your actions becomes a failure the moment you label it as one. Your judg- ment determines that label.
- The unconscious mind runs our lives, constantly working to maintain homeostasis—attracting circumstances and people compatible to what we unconsciously believe. These beliefs can be changed.
- Human behavior is not random. There is a purpose behind every behavior, and it is always done in some way to try and fill a need for something positive.
- People make the best choices available to them. Any behav- ior, no matter how strange or screwed up, was the best choice available to him or her at that moment in time (given that per- son’s life history, knowledge, beliefs, and resources, and viewed from his or her frame of reference).
- We all have a naturally biased, self-focused frame of reference from which we view the world.
- Our self-focused frame of reference leads to self-consciousness, one of the biggest challenges we face.
- You cannot not communicate. Everything you do or don’t do sends a message.
- The meaning of your communication is how the receiver takes it. No matter how well-intentioned your communication is, how ever the receiver understood or took your communication is the meaning.
- The person with the most behavioral flexibility has the greatest ability to influence others and achieve his or her goals.
Whether these presuppositions are always true is irrel- evant; the important thing is that they are beliefs held by extraordi- narily successful people, and modeling them will help you achieve your goals and dreams. Many of these presuppositions are similar to or derive from those of Richard Bandler and John Grinder, the founders of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).
The real test of courage is not to die, but to truly live.
-- Conte Vittorio Alfieri
Life is filled with choices. Where you go, what you do, and who you become are the result of daily decisions you make.
There is one decision that outweighs all the rest, and that is: will you be true to yourself in a world trying to make you like everyone else?
We want to be challenged, we want to be creative, and we want to grow. We want freedom to live with passion and pursue our dreams regardless of what people think, how much money we make, or level of status we acquire. Ultimately, we want to vividly experience great moments in our life and live fully.
Fear takes all of that away. Instead of challenges, fear sees obstacles; instead of opportunities, setbacks. Instead of experienc- ing growth, we live in the past. If we want to truly live, we need to embrace our fears and find the courage to be our true selves.
We’ll look at world-class performers who live balanced, fulfilling lives and study the key principles that allow them to do that.
We’ll look at the unique life perspective of extraordinary people, including how they’ve learned to direct and control their feelings and compete to win without becoming enslaved by their performance.
We’ll see how the basic principles are the same.
the biggest obstacle we face, in performance and in life, is self-centeredness.
our preoccu- pation with ourselves, our vision narrows, our growth is limited, and our failures are amplified.
You may not think you’re self-centered, but consider this: is not everything you think, say, and do based on your experiences, your goals, and your beliefs?
How you see the world, and therefore what you believe is possible, derives from you—or more precisely, who you perceive you are.
That perception comes from your mind’s continual assessment of your past, to which you become attached. It’s that attachment that limits us. Our biggest obstacle is in our mind, or, rather, the program our mind runs based on who we were.
The solution: love, wisdom, and courage.
Love is to lead with the heart;
wisdom is to expand your vision;
courage is to be fully present.
love becomes passion, wisdom becomes purpose, and cour- age becomes poise.
1 - Maslow and the Maserati The Pursuit of More
Seduced by the siren song of a consumerist, quick-fix society, we sometimes choose a course of action that brings only the illusion of accomplishment, the shadow of satisfaction.
-- George Leonard, aikido master