Reinvention - How to Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life
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THE SUBJECT OF REINVENTION is very dear to my heart. When I was 21 and working as a construction la- borer, getting up at 5:00 a.m. in the middle of a cold winter and taking three buses to work all day carrying building ma- terials from place to place, I had a revelation that changed my life. I realized that I was responsible for myself and for everything that happened to me.
Sitting in my little one-room apartment, it was like a flashbulb going off in my face.
from that day for- ward was completely up to me. No one was going to do it for me.
At that moment, I decided to put my past behind me and reinvent myself for the first time. I looked as far into the future as I could and asked, ‘‘What do I really want to do with my life?’’
I learned that the key to reinvention is to go onto the ‘‘continuous offensive.’’ Get a good idea of where you want to go and take action. Try, try again, and try once more. Never give up. Keep moving forward.
In this book, you learn some of the most helpful thinking tools ever discovered to enable you to save months and even years of your life in reinventing yourself and be- coming the kind of person you always wanted to be.
INTRODUCTION - ## Your World in Transition
Wherever we are, it is but a stage on the way to somewhere else, and whatever we do, however well we do it, it is only a preparation to do something else that shall be different.
-- ROBERT LOUIS STEVENSON, SCOTTISH NOVELIST AND POET
LET THE GOOD TIMES ROLL!
what- ever changes are taking place in your life today, they are part of a larger plan to lead you onward and upward to ful- filling your potential.
LIFESTYLE CHANGES NEVER STOP
The rate of change, driven by information explosion, new technologies, and competition of all kinds, is not going to slow down.
your goal should be to become a master of change rather than a victim of change.
THINK ABOUT THE FUTURE
One characteristic of the most successful and happy people is that they are intensely future-oriented.
they focus on factors that are under their control and actions they can take to create the kind of future they desire.
We are living in the very best time in all of human history. It has never been more possible for more people to earn more money, enjoy higher standards of living, and live longer, healthier lives than it is today.
THE NEW 65
Today, 75 is the new 65. The average person today is often in excellent mental and physical con- dition at the age of 65.
A person who is 50 years old today is only halfway through his productive work life. You have more time than you think.
THE TURNING POINT
study: ‘‘What was the turning point between your previous life, which was mostly average performance at an average job, and the extraordi- nary success that you have enjoyed in recent years?’’
was ‘‘unexpectedly los- ing a job.’’
At this point, they each asked them- selves, ‘‘What do I really want to do with my life?’’
ADAPT, ADJUST, RESPOND
Charles Darwin said, ‘‘Survival goes not necessarily to the most intelligent or the strongest of the species, but to the one that is the most adaptable to change.’’
Chapter One - You Are Remarkable
We can accomplish almost anything within our ability if we but think we can.
-- GEORGE MATTHEW ADAMS, COLUMNIST, AUTHOR, AND PUBLISHER
You have more talent and abilities than you could use in 100 lifetimes. What you can do with your life from this day forward is limited only by your own imagination.
Dr. Wayne Dyer: ‘‘Each child comes into the world with ‘secret orders’.’’
You are unique in every sense. There is no one in the world, in all of human history, with the special combination of talents, abilities, knowledge, experience, insights, feel- ings, desires, ambitions, hopes, or dreams that you have. And there never will be.
Your greatest satisfaction and joy in life will come when you have the wonderful feeling that you are realizing your full potential and becoming everything you are capa- ble of becoming.
THE HIGHEST-PAID WORK
the most important work of all is ‘‘thinking.’’
The better you think, the better decisions you make. The better decisions you make, the better actions you take. The better actions you take, the better results you get. In the long run, and in the short run, the quality of your thinking largely determines the quality of your life. All truly success- ful, happy people are good thinkers.
The greater clarity you have with regard to where you want to end up sometime in the future, the better deci- sions you can make in the present and the more likely is it that you will achieve the kind of results that you really want.
THINKING SKILLS FOR THE TWENTY- FIRST CENTURY
reexamine all the details of your life.
You’ll know it is time to ree- valuate when you experience stress, resistance, frustration, failure, disappointment, or difficulties of any kind.
to stand back and reevaluate the situation based on the way it is today.
‘‘Reality Principle.’’: seeing the world as it is, not as you wish it would be.
the quantity of the information you have with which to work. get the facts.
What exactly has happened? How did it happen? When did it happen? Who is involved? What is likely to happen as a result of this situation?
write down every detail of the situation on a piece of paper.
Something wonderful seems to happen between the head and the hand. The more details you write, the more calm, clear, and effective you become. Very often, the right course of action will jump off the page at you.
continually examine your current ways of living, working, and doing business.
moving time, money, and resources away from lower-value areas of activ- ity to higher-value areas.
spending more of your personal time on those activities that give you the greatest happiness and satisfaction.
delegating low-value tasks.
There are many things that you do each day that may have been important at one time, but now, in comparison to other uses of time, they are of little or no value.
Reinventing yourself involves drawing a line under your past and imag- ining what you would or could do if you were starting over today, in any area, with a clean slate.
What new skills or abilities would you choose to develop? If you could reinvent your life completely, how would it be different from today?
Practice zero-based thinking in every area of your life. Ask, ‘‘Is there anything that I am doing today that, knowing what I now know, I would not start up again today if I had to do it over?’’
Imagine you could wave a magic wand and reinvent any part of your life from the beginning. What changes would you make? What would you do differ- ently?
each person has either an internal or an external locus of control.
An internal locus of control means you feel that you are in charge of your life and in command of the situation
SIX STAGES OF REGAINING CONTROL
- Denial—the refusal to face the inevitable and unavoidable reality of the situation.
- anger. Once it is clear that the event has occurred, the per- son reacts with anger toward the person or situation he con- siders responsible for what has happened.
- blame. blames someone or something else for what has happened. His conversation with himself and others becomes an explanation of why and how he is inno- cent and why and how someone else is to blame for his un- happiness.
It is hardly possible for someone in a state of denial, anger, or blame to move forward.
These negative emotions are para- lyzing and can keep you locked in place.
- guilt. You begin to feel that you failed. negativity, inferiority, and depres- sion. You may feel like giving up or feel sorry for yourself.
- accept- ing responsibility. you can deal with the problem and take control of the situation. The more that you accept responsibility for yourself and your situation, the greater sense of control you will have and the happier and more positive you will become.
It is impossible to remain angry or to blame other people for problems in your life when you are saying, ‘‘I am responsible.’’
"Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?"
As in a drive-by shooting, you were the vic- tim of circumstances over which you had no control. But you are still responsible for your responses. Remember, it is not what happens to you, but how you respond to what happens to you that determines whether you are happy or unhappy. As Shakespeare wrote, ‘‘There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.’’
- reframing. The way you feel about any situation is largely determined by your explana- tory style—by how you interpret the event to yourself, in either a positive or negative way. Instead of defining it as a problem, you reframe it as a situation. you can reframe a situation as a challenge. something that you rise to. you can interpret an unexpected setback as an opportunity.
- Resurgence. Resurgence.Onceyouhaveacceptedresponsibility,rein- terpreted the negative event in a positive way, and taken complete control of your mind and emotions, you are ready to resume your upward journey. As Napoleon Hill said, ‘‘The only real cure for worry is purposeful action toward a predetermined goal.’’
You accept what has happened as inevitable and irre- versible. You refuse to waste a minute worrying about the past or something that cannot be changed. Instead, you focus on the future, on the almost unlimited number of pos- sibilities and opportunities open to you to create a wonder- ful life for yourself.
QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION
- Inwhatonespecificareaofyourlifeshouldyoutake some time to completely reevaluate your situation based on the reality of today?
- How could you reorganize your life or work so that it is more in harmony with what you want and what makes you happy?
- How could you restructure your life or work so that you are spending more time doing the things that bring you the greatest rewards?
- How could you simplify your life by delegating, downsizing, consolidating, or eliminating low-value or no-value tasks and activities?
- If you could wave a magic wand and reinvent your life completely, what changes would you make?
- In what areas of your life do you need to accept complete responsibility so that you can start moving forward?
- What one action are you going to take immediately as the result of what you have learned in this chapter?
Chapter 2 - Who Are You?
Man, know thyself.
-- GREEK PROVERB