Dont Fall in Love With Your Words Fall in Love With Your Craft and Giving it Away - Indie author shares her insights on being a writer and doing the writting

How much do I want to read more? 7/10

Feedback and advice from a "passionate" writer after 20 years of work.
Not that inspiring nor resonating with me, but I still like the advice not to fall in love with one's words, but with one's craft instead.


The competition to be a published writer is fierce. The dream of getting published has been overly-romanticized in the media so that many beginning writers think not only that writing is easy, but that they have a good chance of getting a contract from a major house. The odds are, realistically, one in a million-maybe worse than that. We hear about the success stories, not the ones who spend their lives toiling for that dream, to the exclusion of everything else, only to wind up poor, alone, lacking in social skills, and profoundly jaded that life has passed them by.

Often, then, self-publishing is the only option if a writer wants to get her work out there. There's little point in spending your entire life hoping, while your words stay in a drawer. I believe as writers we are meant to honor that talent, and share it, otherwise, what's the point of having it?

Author's Note

"I love writing and sometimes the feeling is mutual."
I recognized that writing meant that I could make things up. I could create anything I wanted to create, and because it was made up, it didn't have to be the truth-which is why, I suppose I have such an affinity for writing fiction.
Fiction writing is like playing god. You can create a whole human being, and then smite him.

But writing books is not something you do just for fun. You do it because you are compelled to do it. You are drawn to it like it has some inexplicable gravitational field.
One of the inherent problems with being a writer is it's so solitary.

I once got so frustrated with the degree of commitment it takes to keep writing, that in a petulant fugue, I said "I'm not writing anymore!! This is too hard! It's never appreciated!" I stopped writing.
A week later, I was more miserable than I had been before. I realized I could not be content or feel any degree of personal satisfaction, unless I was writing. I had no choice but to honor the thing I felt I was meant to be doing. Whether it paid all the bills or not. That's why I advise writers to always have another sufficient source of income. It's really difficult to make a living as a writer.

You have to choose between writing what you love to write and in just the way you want to write it on the one hand, or writing what is commercially viable.
I resolved to write a book that I would want to read.
have been rewritten about 217 times. I have done that with all my work; as I learned more and more about the craft, I would go back and apply that to all my manuscripts until I was satisfied they were the best they could be.

Writing good novels is about the people, as much as the plot.
Finishing that book was like graduating from some writer's college. I had so much more confidence in my ability to write well. It was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

I will share some things I've learned along the way, and maybe it will save you all some time and frustration.

Part 1: Doing the Writing

Writing Words of Wisdom.

My most commonly offered caveat is this: don't fall in love with your words; fall in love with your craft.
That's when you will begin the process of being a quality writer.

If I had a one in a million chance of winning a million dollars playing roulette, and a one in ten chance of winning $100 the same way-I'm more likely to put my chips on the one in ten. That's what it is to self-publish.
I write first for me, and second, for the readers.
If it's not at least partly about the readers, then writing is merely a glorified form of masturbation.

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