The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down - How to be calm and mindful in a fast-peaced world


How much do I want to read more? 8/10

What a lovely book, with pure wisdom. Very simply said and expressed, with nice illustrations.
I will read the other author's most recent book too.


HAEMIN SUNIM is one of the most influential Zen Buddhist teachers and writers in South Korea.

PROLOGUE

the value of slowing down in our busy modern lives, as well as the art of maintaining good relationships and cultivating self-compassion.
I still remember a young mother who had lost her husband in a car accident and sent me a heartfelt thank-you note for saving her from committing suicide, saying that she never thought about loving herself because love for her always meant giving it to someone else.
I address how to deal mindfully with negative emotions like anger and jealousy as well as life’s disappointments, digging deep into my past to share my experience of failure as a new college professor.

CHAPTER ONE - Rest

Why Am I So Busy?

When everything around me is moving so fast, I stop and ask, “Is it the world that’s busy, or is it my mind?”

We perceive a clear boundary between what goes on inside our minds and what happens in the outside world.
According to the Buddha’s teaching, however, the boundary between the mind and the world is actually thin, porous, and ultimately illusory.
It is not that the world is objectively joyful or sad and produces a corresponding feeling in us. Rather, feelings originate with the mind projecting its subjective experience onto the world. The world isn’t inherently joyful or sad; it just is.

When we look at the outside world, we are looking at only a small part that interests us. The world we see is not the entire universe but a limited one that the mind cares about. However, to our minds, that small world is the entire universe. Our reality is not the infinitely stretching cosmos but the small part we choose to focus on. Reality exists because our minds exist. Without the mind, there would be no universe.

The world comes to exist because we are aware of it. We cannot live in a reality of which we are unaware.
The world depends on our minds in order to exist, just as our minds depend on the world as the subject of our awareness. Put differently, our mind’s awareness can be said to bring the world into being. What our mind focuses on becomes our world.

Given that the world we see through our mind’s eye is limited, if we can train our mind and choose wisely where to focus, then we will be able to experience the world corresponding to the state of our mind.

it isn’t the outside world that is a whirlwind; it is only my mind. The world has never complained about how busy it is.
everyone appears as buddhas in the eyes of the Buddha and everyone appears as pigs in the eyes of a pig. It suggests that the world is experienced according to the state of one’s mind. When your mind is joyful and compassionate, the world is, too. When your mind is filled with negative thoughts, the world appears negative, too.
When your mind rests, the world also rests.

We know the world only through the window of our mind.
When our mind is noisy, the world is as well.
And when our mind is peaceful, the world is, too.
Knowing our minds is
just as important as trying to change the world.


Tsunamis are frightening not just because of the water,
but also because of the objects hurled at us by the water.
Tornadoes are terrifying not just because of the wind,
but also because of the objects uprooted and thrown by the wind.
We feel unhappy not just because something bad has happened,
but also because of the swirling thoughts about what happened.


When you have an unpleasant feeling,
don’t grab hold of it and turn it over and over.
Instead, leave it alone so it can flow.
The wave of emotion will naturally recede on its own
as long as you don’t feed it by dwelling on it.

Don’t struggle to heal your wounds.
Just pour time into your heart and wait.
When your wounds are ready,
they will heal on their own.


If you’ve been unable to change a bad situation, even after many attempts,
you should change how you look at the situation.
Nothing is intrinsically good or bad.
Good or bad is always relative.
Compare your situation with someone’s that is wors


When you are stressed out, be aware of your stress.
When you are irritated, be aware of your irritation.
When you are angry, be aware of your anger.
As soon as you become aware of these feelings
you are no longer lost in them.

Your awareness allows you to witness them from the outside.
Awareness is inherently pure, like the open sky.
Stress, irritation, and anger can temporarily cloud the sky,
but they can never pollute it.
Negative emotions come and go like clouds,
but the wide-open sky remains.

Like toxins slowly filling our bodies,
if anger, despair, or sorrow accumulate in our hearts,
we have to do something about it.
Exercise, talk to your mentor, meditate on loving-kindness.
As we begin to make the effort, the toxins start to lose their grip.