The Passion Paradox - A Guide to Going All In, Finding Success, and Discovering the Benefits of an Unbalanced Life


How much do I want to read more? 8/10

A short and lovely book about passion. It looks actually good and not the typical cliché advice "follow your passion".
Both authors investigated on a large palette of intelectuals, athletes, artists to dig deeper into the do and don't.
The end of it is the will to help us live with a fruitful passion, more fully, joyfully, more fulfilled: a more extraordinary life.

I can't help but think about my own passion for computer programming. It has been trully magical early in my life from 11 to 16. But then I gradually let it die.
I'm not sure why, I wasn't special anymore. The context changed. Maybe I didn't find a purpose on top of it, I don't know, but the fuel came to extinction.


Introduction - Why a Book About Passion?

focusing on performance practices alone misses a crucial point.
An unrelenting drive. An eternal hunger. An inability to be satiated.

Observing this passionate drive firsthand in Olympic athletes, groundbreaking inventors, original artists, and successful entrepreneurs, as well as experiencing it in ourselves, led us to wonder: From where does this intense feeling of passion come? How can one find it and what fuels it? How should one make the decision to pursue a passion that appears to conflict with other obligations? What makes passion disappear? Is it always positive? Or is it not so different from an addiction? Is there a right way to live with passion? To go “all-in” on something?

We scoured the literature, reading texts from biology, psychology, anthropology, and philosophy; interviewed cutting-edge researchers; discovering the good, the bad, and the ugly about our own respective relationships with passion.
You’ll learn how to manage your relationship with passion and cultivate the kind of passion that lights you up rather than burns you out or sets your life on fire.

1 - Passion Must Be Handled with Care

“Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate. The world doesn’t need any more gray. On the other hand, we can’t get enough color. Mediocrity is nobody’s goal, and perfection shouldn’t be either. We’ll never be perfect. But remember these three P’s: Passion plus persistence equals possibility.”

—- Jon Bon Jovi, 2001 commencement addres


Odds are, the passion described by Bon Jovi—the wholehearted pursuit of an activity with enthusiasm, fire, and zeal—is the kind with which you’re familiar.
While there are plenty of voices telling you to find your passion, there are hardly any telling you how to be passionate.

passion can lead you down:

the joy of doing the activity itself:
When your goal becomes your path and your path becomes your goal. When your passion is fueled by deep purpose and is in harmony with the rest of your life. When you practice mindful self-awareness to pierce through the tidal inertia that passion can create, giving you control over your passion so your passion doesn’t control you. When you feel alive not just for a few months or years but for an entire career or lifetime. This is the passion we all crave. This is the best kind of passion.

finding your passion is only half the battle. Knowing how to sustain and channel it in a productive and healthy manner is the other.
hat direction your passion takes is a choice, not a predetermined destiny.
self-awareness prevents future regret.

2 - The Origins of Passion - A Brief History of Suffering and Love