Radical Acceptance - Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha
How much do I want to read more? 7/10
Self-compassion and mindfulness, fighting the "I am not enough".
There are a bunch of books on this topic now. I think this one is good.
I'm not sure this is what I'm suffering most. I used to be pretty confident.
However, why is it I am seeking for goods in the world, and knowledge in books, isn't it a mark of insecurity?
About the Book
In the West, most of us have suffered the fear of not being ‘good enough’, feeling insecure about our appearance, our sexuality, our intelligence, our spiritual progress or – often most importantly – being worthy of love.
Through meditation, mindfulness practices and fully understanding the healing power of compassion, we can discover the very real possibility of meeting imperfection in ourselves and others with courage and love.
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase each other
doesn’t make any sense.
FOREWORD - Jack Kornfield
You hold in your hands a beautiful invitation: to remember that it is possible to live your life with the wise and tender heart of a Buddha.
PROLOGUE - “SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH ME”
thrill-seeking through recreational drugs, sex, and other adventures. In the eyes of the world, I was highly functional. Internally, I was anxious, driven and often depressed. I didn’t feel at peace with any part of my life.
Feeling not okay went hand in hand with deep loneliness. In my early teens I sometimes imagined that I was living inside a transparent orb that separated me from the people and life around me.
the Buddhist path, I found there the teachings and practices that enabled me to directly face my feelings of unworthiness and insecurity.
They gave me a way of seeing clearly what I was experiencing.
just hearing of someone else’s accomplishments, being criticized, getting into an argument, making a mistake at work—to make us feel that we are not okay.
“Feeling that something is wrong with me is the invisible and toxic gas I am always breathing.”
we are unable to perceive the truth of who we really are.
One morning before dawn, she suddenly opened her eyes and looked clearly and intently at her daughter. “You know,” she whispered softly, “all my life I thought something was wrong with me.” Shaking her head slightly, as if to say, “What a waste,” she closed her eyes and drifted back into a coma. Several hours later she passed away.
This cultivation of mindfulness and compassion is what I call Radical Acceptance.
Radical Acceptance reverses our habit of living at war.
Radical Acceptance is the willingness to experience ourselves and our life as it is.
“. . . all I plead with you is this: make love of your self perfect.”
When we practice Radical Acceptance, we begin with the fears and wounds of our own life and discover that our heart of compassion widens endlessly. In holding ourselves with compassion, we become free to love this living world.
As we free ourselves from the suffering of “something is wrong with me,” we trust and express the fullness of who we are.
May we each discover the pure awareness and love that are our deepest nature.
One - THE TRANCE OF UNWORTHINESS
You will be walking some night . . .
It will be clear to you suddenly
that you were about to escape,
and that you are guilty: you misread
the complex instructions, you are not
a member, you lost your card
or never had one . . .