The Montessori toddler - a parent’s guide to raising a curious and responsible human being


How much do I want to read more? 8/10

A nice book full of inspiration about how to raise one's kid.
I'm actually surprised how much good wisdom and advices I get with only readying the first few pages.
There's much clarity and reflection in this book.
That's probably the book I would recommand for any parent with a toddler (before they reach 4 years old).
Actually, I think it can benefit children up to 6 years old.
I will hurry to read it before my child get 4!


INTRODUCTION

LET’S CHANGE THE WAY WE SEE TODDLERS

Toddlers are misunderstood humans.
I want to share with you what I have learned. I want to translate the wisdom of Montessori into simple language that is easy to understand and that you can apply in your own home.
To help you plant the seeds to raise a curious and responsible human being. To work on a relationship with your child that you will continue to build upon for years.

WHY I LOVE TODDLERS

People are often confused by this preference. Toddlers can be hard work, they are emotional, and they do not always listen to us.
I want to paint a new picture of the toddler.

Toddlers live in the present moment

they remain present and spot the weeds growing up from a crack in the pavement.
When we spend time with a toddler, they show us how to be present. They are focused on the here and now.

Toddlers pick things up effortlessly

children under 6 years old take in everything without effort, just as a sponge soaks up water. absorbent mind.

Toddlers are enormously capable

with eagerness, capability, and delight. They wipe up spills, fetch a diaper for the baby, put their trash in the wastebasket, help us make food, and like to dress themselves.

Toddlers are innocent

they are not mean-spirited, spiteful, or vengeful. They are simply impulsive, following their every urge.

Toddlers do not hold grudges

Picture a toddler who wants to stay at the park when it’s time to leave. They melt down.
But once they calm down, they go back to being their cheerful, curious selves— unlike adults, who can wake up on the wrong side of the bed and be cranky all day.
Toddlers are also amazingly forgiving.

Toddlers are authentic

they are direct and honest. Their authenticity is infectious. They say what they mean. They wear their hearts on their sleeves.
There are no mind games being played, no underlying motives, no politics at play.
They do not judge others.
I’m talking about children from around 1 to 3 years old.

WHAT WE NEED TO KNOW ABOUT TODDLERS

Toddlers need to say “no.”

One of the most important developmental phases a toddler passes through is the “crisis of self-affirmation.” Between 18 months and 3 years, children realize that their identity is separate from their parents’ and they begin to desire more autonomy. they begin to use the personal pronoun I.

Toddlers need to move

Once standing, they move on to climbing and walking. Once walking, they want to run and to move heavy objects.

Toddlers need to explore and discover the world around them.

The Montessori approach recommends that we accept this.
explore, get them involved in daily life activities that involve all their senses, and allow them to explore the outdoors.
Let them dig in the dirt, take off their shoes in the grass, splash in the water, and run in the rain.

Toddlers need freedom

This freedom will help them grow to be curious learners, to experience things for themselves, to make discoveries, and to feel they have control over themselves.

Toddlers need limits

To keep them safe, teach them to respect others and their environment, and help them become responsible human beings.

Toddlers need order and consistency

Toddlers prefer things to be exactly the same every day—the same routine, things in the same place, and the same rules. It helps them understand, make sense of their world, and know what to expect.
When limits are not consistent, toddlers will keep testing them to see what we decide today.

Toddlers are not giving us a hard time

When we realize their difficult behavior is actually a cry for help, we can ask ourselves, How can I be of help right now? We move from feeling attacked to searching for a way to be supportive.

Toddlers are impulsive

Their prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain that houses our self-control and decision-making centers) is still developing (and will be for another twenty years). This means we may need to guide them if they are climbing on the table again or grabbing something out of someone’s hands, and be patient if they become emotional. I like to say, “We need to be their prefrontal cortex.”

Toddlers need time to process what we are saying

Instead of repeatedly telling our child to put on their shoes, we can count to ten in our head to allow them time to process our request. Often, by the time we get to eight, we’ll see them start to respond.

Toddlers need to communicate

Our children try to communicate with us in many ways. Babies gurgle and we can gurgle back; young toddlers will babble and we can show an interest in what they are saying; older toddlers love asking and answering questions; and we can give rich language, even to these young children, to absorb like a sponge.

Toddlers love mastery

Toddlers love to repeat skills until they master them. Observe them and notice what they are working to master. Usually it is something hard enough to be challenging but not so difficult that they give up. They’ll repeat and repeat the process until they perfect it. Once they’ve mastered it, they move on.

Toddlers like to contribute and be part of the family

They seem to be more interested in the objects their parents use than they are in their toys. They really like to work alongside us as we prepare food, do the laundry, get ready for visitors, and the like.
about being a contributing member of the family. These are things that they will build on as they become schoolchildren and teenagers.

PARENTING THE MONTESSORI TODDLER