How To Talk So Kids Can Learn - What every parent and teacher need to know, at home and in school


How much do I want to read more? 7/10

The book is good but I have to type everything I would usually highlight so it takes way more time to read on.
It starts with acknowledging the child's feelings, which is a big thing. We are usually inclined to make them think our way and don't understand their way. We try to correct them, not seeing their point, not starting at their place, not letting them express what they feel. Here lies the way to understand and help them.
It reminds me of some of the "Non Violent Communication" techniques.

The way it describes a situation, with a dialogue, both the wrong way and the right way, is very helpful. So we can see it in contect, and adapt it better to our own situation with the children.

After reading this, you will pay more attention to how you react with kids, and what kind of words you use.


How parents and teachers talk tells a child how they feel about him. Their statements affect his self-esteem and self-worth. To a large extent, their language determines their destiny.

-- Haim Ginott

Whatever takes place in school between 9:00 am and 3:00 pm is deeply affected by what goes on before and after.

1- How to deal with feelings that interfere with learning

It was the memories of my own teachers - both those I loved and those I hated - that made me decide to become a teacher.
I had a long mental list of all the mean things I would never say or do to my students and a clear vision of how infinitely patient and understanding I would be.

"Direct connection between how kids feel and how they behave"
"I can't write"
"That's not true"
"I hate history. It's boring."
"No it isn't!"

I was the one always preaching to the children about the right of each individual to his or her opinions and feelings.
Whenever the kids expressed their feelings, I dismissed them.
My message was: "You're wrong to feel what you feel. Listen to me instead."