Brave, Not Perfect - Fear Less, Fail More, and Live Bolder


How much do I want to read more? 7/10

The author has decided to go beyond her fears and dare doing things she doesn't know, stepping the barriers.
The book is mostly aimed at girls and women, but I can relate still. I played it too safe, and didn't take bold moves enough.
The message is good, and I need it. Still, I didn't enjoy the Introduction that much. I may read on to make up my opinion.


Introduction: Daring the Unthinkable

What’s remarkable about this story isn’t that I ran for Congress. Or how stunningly and spectacularly I ended up losing, or even how I picked myself back up after such a public and humiliating defeat. What makes this story worth telling is the fact that when I ran for public office at the age of thirty-three, it was the first time in my entire adult life that I had done something truly brave.

As girls, we’re taught from a very young age to play it safe. To strive to get all A’s to please our parents and teachers.
Boys, on the other hand, absorb a very different message. They are taught to explore, play rough, swing high, climb to the top of the monkey bars—and fall down trying. They are encouraged to try new things, tinker with gadgets and tools, and get right back in the game if they take a hit.
boys are taught to be brave, while girls are taught to be perfect.

I wrote Brave, Not Perfect because that pursuit of perfection caused me to hold myself back for too many years. At the age of thirty-three, I finally learned how to be brave in my professional life, which taught me how to be brave in my personal life, too. I’ve been exercising that bravery muscle every day since.

When we relinquish the punishing need for perfection—or, rather, let go of the fear of not being perfect—we find freedom, joy, and all the other good stuff we want in life.
It’s time to stop giving up before we try. Because when we do give up on anything that is challenging or doesn’t come to us naturally, we become trapped in a state of discontent and inertia that’s soul crushing.
We stay in the relationship that brings us pain, in the social circle that brings us down, in the career that makes us miserable.

It all comes down to exercising your bravery muscles, one little bit at a time.

Why me?

It’s time to stop pursuing perfection and start chasing bravery instead.
Anaïs Nin wrote, “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”
courage is the key to living the biggest life we can create for ourselves.

Part One - How Girls are Trained for Perfection

1- Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice