How much do I want to read more? 6/10
The fear of approaching women might be one of our strongest fears. Therefore it shall not be surprising there are similarities between seduction and life's success.
It's all about growing more confident as we confront our fears, and ultimately, becoming the person we want to be.
For this reason, this book grabbed my attention. I didn't find much valuable though.
The first "lesson" is a good example though: The vicious cycle of "fear of rejection".
You're hesitant because you know things won't go your way. But the more you don't take action, the more hesitant you'll be.
I realized that I was the problem, not the women.
“Hi!” he sputtered nervously. She was pleasant. He eventually asked for the number to which she said no. Even though he failed, he felt much better that he tried.
“Rejection is better than Regret”
You are caught in the vicious cycle. You are hesitant because you are not used for things going your way. And things will never go your way because you remain hesitant.
“By realizing that the choice of Inaction is more painful than Action. Childhood is over. Always default to Action now. From those of us who wasted years in that hesitation mode know that Rejection is always better than Regret. Always.”
For a friend she sees, a friend you shall always be.
“Judge by actions, not by words.”
Woman is a sphinx with no secret. It is only our minds that we assign her secrets, mysteries, pedestals, and goddess-like status.
we paint the image we want to see.
Judge by her actions and not by her words. Judge by what she does than by what your mind wants to see. Our vanity will convert the image of every disinterested girl into secretly loving us (for women tell us what we want to hear). This is why we must judge by her actions and not by her words.
“Patience is the refined sense of confidence.”
The guys that can get almost any women are not scared or nervous that other guys are hitting on girls. He knows things the other guys never will.
It is the noisy guys that lack the skills.
She would get close to him. Her eyes would shine like stars. She would make jokes about kisses and kissing. He felt the urge to kiss her but denied it.
Eventually, the iron grew cold. The woman became disinterested. She moved on.
“Trust the gut.”
Now, how does the kid know to eat?
He knows when to eat because the food has been all prepared, has been cooked, and is presented before him.
Women have been prepared through decades of aging and growth for this purpose. They dream it. They want it.
Do you think she is wearing what she does for herself? No, she is wearing it for you! Women are not ornaments to be admired. They are there to be consumed. You know it. They know it.
Nature’s music. You either can flow with the system and get what you want or you can buck it in pain. So LISTEN to that gut.
“You are the Great Catch.”
The first young man is facing TOWARDS infancy. The second young man is facing AWAY from infancy. The first one wishes to climb back into the womb; the second one wants to fly from it. The first wishes a cushioned place in the world while the second one leaves the cushions behind. The first one is ordinary; the second one is extraordinary. Thus, the second one becomes the Great Catch while the first one merely becomes a filler of a void.
By pleasing her whims, I lost track of mine. A servant you’ll be, a friend she’ll see.
“Respect is All.”
“Answer this riddle, why do men who are willing to walk away turn you on?”
And the woman laughs. “Didn’t everyone know this? A man that can walk away means that he has his pick of the litter and the woman can easily be replaced."
“The Great Catch is respect. She is supposed to celebrate life with you, not use you as a peon. Be a man and respect attends to itself.”
“Only the Sexual Ones get the girls.”
Women are entirely sexual creatures. They do not respond to your intellectualism. They do not respond to your genius. They only respond to sexuality.
embrace your own sexuality. Be a guy, talk like a guy, act like a guy. Do action things.