How much do I want to read more? 6/10

This book gently helps to reflect about marriage. Is it better to get married in the first place, or to live single?

I'm not a fan of the author's style, but he gives some good points on both sides of the coin, so anyone can relate and reflect.

If you have questions or hesitations about marriage / singleness, if you question your situation, or if the idea to change your marital status comes to mind, it certainly can be a good help.


You may have noticed that the books you really love are bound together by a secret thread.
Are not all lifelong friendships born at the moment when at last you meet another human being who has some inkling… of that something which you were born desiring…?

Like most young modern couples, we found that marriage was much harder than we expected it to be.

Western culture objection: marriage was originally about property and is now in flux, marriage crushes individual identity and has been oppressive for women, marriage stifles passion and is ill-fitted to psychological reality, marriage is “just a piece of paper” that only serves to complicate love.

Plenty of people who do not acknowledge God or the Bible, yet who are experiencing happy marriages, are largely abiding by God’s intentions, whether they realize it or not.

Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife.
Husbands, love your wives, to make her holy.
husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.


While marriage is many things, it is anything but sentimental.

The Decline of Marriage

over 72 percent of American adults were married in 1960, but only 50 percent were in 2008.
As comedian Chris Rock has asked, “Do you want to be single and lonely or married and bored?”

The Surprising Goodness of Marriage

those who live together before marriage are more likely to break up after marriage.

Some say married people experience greater physical and mental health.

single people can spend money unwisely and self-indulgently without anyone to hold them accountable.

a twenty-four-year-old male announced his decision to never marry. He reported that as he had shared his decision over the past few months to his married friends, everyone laughed and acted jealous. They all said to him that he was smart.
“Out of 10 married couples . . . 7 are miserable as hell”

the filmmaker expresses his belief that it is extraordinarily hard though not completely impossible for two modern persons to love each other without stifling one another’s individuality and freedom.