How much do I want to read more? 7/10

A huge and interesting book.
Children have their own personality, which might not get acknowledged by the raising parents.
Some may go gay, some are born dwarf, or deaf. Those differences create isolation. But the beautiful thing is realizing we're all different, and those differences unite us in a profound way.

An interesting and difficult question:
"To what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves?"


1/ Son

When two people decide to have a baby, they engage in an act of production, not reproduction.
Our subconscious fantasies is to see live forever, not someone with a personality of his own.

many of us are unprepared for children who present unfamiliar needs.
Parenthood abruptly catapults us into a permanent relationship with a stranger.

we must love them for themselves, and not for the best of ourselves in them.

If I had a deaf child, my first impulse would be to fix the abnormality. Just like my parent tried to fix that I am gay.
The same with child born dwarf. I suddenly saw that I was in a vast company. Difference unites us. While each of these experiences can isolate those who are affected, together they compose an aggregate of millions whose struggles connect them profoundly.

As my parents had misapprehended who I was, so other parents must be constantly misapprehending their own children.
Many parents experience their child’s horizontal identity as an affront.