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A nice short compilation of personal philosophy, methods, and way of thinking to get one's way through life.
We almost know it all already, but it's always nice to read it said another way, and even more with some of the author's personal anecdote.


Pre-GRIT.

In the meantime, you realize the day is almost gone, and you are overwrought because of all the nonsensical stress you put yourself through. You won’t be able to work on the project or thesis or whichever task is on your “goal highway.”

I decided to stop fighting against my fate. I hushed my inner voice that asked why did this happen to me? What did I do to deserve it? I changed the questions. What can I do to optimize my situation? How can I survive this period?

Introduction: The GRIT System

the more you think you know or have, the less interested you’ll be to put in extra effort.

Persistence isn’t about continuing only through the sunny days, but putting up with the rain, hailstorms, tornados, and earthquake and still not giving up. If you long for success, persistence is the guaranteed quality to ensure it.

If you only wish for the happy ending without any personal contribution, you will not achieve it.

People usually don’t attempt to achieve great things because they are afraid of failure and taking risks.
grit is essential to acquire all the knowledge needed to reach your goal.

Challenging tasks are not risky; the lack of knowledge associated with them enhances the risk.

Grit is an essential factor in the process of converting wishes into their monetary equivalent. The basis of grit is the power of will. Willpower and desire, when properly allied, make an overpowering pair. People who accumulate great fortunes are sometimes known as cold-blooded, but this is misunderstood.
What they have is willpower, when mixed with grit and supported by their desires, grants the acquisition of their objectives.

We are all capable of building inner confidence and determination that makes us able to move mountains with our willpower. We all can be Fords with hard work, faith, and a lot of GRIT.


Lesson 1: Stay in Control

To make the first step in my personal life to drive back to my “goal highway” required me to fix the lowest level of Maslow's pyramid—my basic needs.

I went down to the kitchen and started to collect the dishes. The canteen lady was very surprised, though grateful, for my help. My stomach was cooperating with me and started growling loudly at the right moment. She told me there were lots of leftovers, so if I was hungry, she could give me a plate or two. Otherwise, she would just throw it away. Long story short, this was the beginning of a beautiful friendship.

Everyday events can poison our good mood. But don’t forget, the problem isn’t the problem; your attitude towards it can be.

Identify any potential situation that might cause stress, and try to avoid it.

Analyze your reactions given to stressful situations and note, which has kicked you out of balance the most.


Lesson 2: Something for Something

selflessness simply cannot exist.
rule of compensation: “people never do anything for you unless there is a gain in it for them.”

While I just sat passively in the kitchen, watching people eat and not lifting a finger, I went to bed hungry. And the lady went home super exhausted. Both of us were losers at the end of the day. The lack of communication didn’t help either of us. I never asked for food; and she never asked for help. Then my bigger need caused me to search for a solution. And that day, we left the kitchen with a win-win feeling.

Everything we do or say has a compensatory impact. We can only take out of a basket those tools, which we previously put inside it.

In business, people will only help us if we can compensate them somehow for their time, effort, and knowledge.

If you are continuously rude with your partner, after a time, they will get tired of this mistreatment and will leave. It’s about doing to others as you would have them do to you.

If you want to stick strictly to survival, the rule of compensation is a perfect choice. But if you want to create long-term plans, not only day-to-day ones, you have to take the rule of compensation to the next level.
 
This is the rule of reciprocity.

Human nature is coded to try to find the balance between how much they give and get. In most cases, they focus on the “get” side of the equation because they don’t want to give more than they get.

If you focus on the “give” side of the equation—the only side you can influence—you realize that the sky is the limit in the rule of reciprocity. If you give more than your expected gain, you will channel the odds of overcompensation. If we always give more, we will start to get more. Every day our compensation could be bigger than it was the day before.

what you put in is what you get back.

There’s a thin ice between showing gratitude and showing off.


Lesson 3: Knowledge Is Power

Basically, we have everything we need to research any project before we jump into it.

lack of information is like a predator that lies in wait to doom us to failure. The risks are much greater if people engage in something they don’t know about. By not knowing, they lose control, and by losing control they get exposed.

Knowledge is like your bulletproof vest, which makes you resistant to the attacks of others.