How much do I want to read more? 3/10
Such a title evokes "love your neighbor like yourself", or is it about love relationship?
Well, the following sentence from the "Introduction" tend towards the later:
"there might be a ready formula for falling in love."
If I were to formulate any formula about falling in love, I would say first and foremost, Love yourself. Then you will love anybody. But I doubt it is mainline of this book.
This essay starts with her love story, which is actually a friendship turning into adulthood relationship.
I'm sorry to say I didn't get anything relevant so far, and I doubt I want to read more.
It was obvious that I’d offered something powerful: the idea that there might be a ready formula for falling in love.
For most of my life, I’d conceptualized love as something that happened to me.
In love, we fall. We are struck, we are crushed. We swoon. We burn with passion. Love makes us crazy or it makes us sick. Our hearts ache and then they break. I wondered if this was how love had to work—or if I could take back some control. Science suggested that I could.
the exploded star - the myth of the right person
I remember thinking that what my dad said was true: It’s the little things that keep a couple together.
From a narrative perspective, making the right choice is any outcome that gets you closer to a happy ending: marriage to the right person. I thought of those Choose Your Own Adventure books I loved as a kid. “You and YOU ALONE are in charge of what happens in this story,” they warned at the start.
Ultimately, as in countless other books and movies, the heartbroken protagonist finally gets it: He was taking the person he loved for granted. And thanks to this hard-won revelation, he now knows how to be a better partner.