How to Kick the Worry Habit
Worry May Be A Killer
First of all, worry might well be killer number one. And if it is not the number one physical killer, although doctors tell us worriers die sooner than non-worriers, and we have all heard the expression “worry yourself to death,” at least it is the number one killer of dreams and achievement, of energy and vitality, and lifestyle.
I’m not saying it’s easy. It took me almost a full year to kick the worry habit. It took practice and much effort, but it was well worth it. Remember,
don’t ask for the task to be easy, just ask for it to be worth it.
Don’t wish it were easier - wish you were better.
Don’t ask for less challenge - ask for more skills.
Don’t ask for fewer problems - ask for more wisdom.
It’s the challenge that makes the experience. And life, and its color and meaning and adventure for you, is this collection of experiences. To wish them away is to wish your life away.
Worry Is Wasted Mental Energy
Worry is fear - painting pictures in your mind. And if you watch that mental movie too long you get a false picture of how things really are. Worry is a mental broadcasting station and more often than not it is false or at least distorted propaganda. Worry has that sneaky way of stopping short of giving you all the facts. Worry is often the trickery of mentally filtered facts on the negative side, and the bold declarations that these are all the facts.
Worry has the mental audacity to suggest that the elevator only runs one way – down. Many times worry is a five-alarm bell for a wastebasket fire. And worry is a depletion of constructive emotion. It’s wasted mental energy. It’s like letting the starter run the battery down when the car won’t start. And worry is most often a lack of all the facts: a lack of full understanding, a lack of total information, and an unpreparedness of ability, knowledge, talent, courage, faith, and all the other virtues.
And remember, left unchecked, it can become like a mad dog loose in the house. And the sorrow and pain and regret are too large a price to pay, not to do something about it. And to do it now.
You see, if you contemplated the total sum of human suffering long enough, it would drive you mad. You must understand how life is: human suffering, man’s inhumanity to man, war, disease, and poverty. But it must be in what I call its rightful ratio of your mental and emotional time.
Get Free of the Worry Habit
- Why let worry continue to take money out of your pocket and bank account?
- Why let worry any longer keep you from becoming all you can be?
- Why let worry rob you of better friendships, better business, better profits, better results, better communication, and better family relations?
- Why impose your worry on others any longer? It’s a burden you can get rid of, and a monkey you can get off your back.
- Why not be rid of those sinking, nagging, feelings that all is not going to be well, that you can’t do it, that it won’t work out for the best?
It’s like a family planning a wonderful trip. While they certainly should be concerned about the condition of the car, the tires, and making sure they picked the proper route, it would be foolish to allow themselves to be completely turned negative with the thought that they might crash and kill the entire family. If that were the case, even if they went, the entire trip would be turned into one nightmare of fear with a specter of chaos looming around every curve, rather than enjoying the wonderful trip they had planned for themselves and their family. A lot of people do that with their entire life.
Start to make these declarations and if you mean it they will start you on your way to confidence:
- I’ve had it with worry.
- I’m tired of being beaten down and hassled with all those negative mental pictures.
- I refuse to be tricked by false facts.
- I’m really not that weak.
- Never again do I want those sick feelings inside, those mental false alarms.
- I’m tired of the drain on my resources.
- I’m tired of the embarrassment of the lack of confidence.
- I don’t want people, especially my family, to see me in this state anymore.
- I’ve got more to offer.
- I refuse to let my life be short-circuited any longer by letting my mind run wild with a distorted view of the facts, whether I bring it up or if it comes from someone else.
Prove it to yourself.
Think back over all the things that you worried about, all the fantastic, catastrophic events that your well- meaning advisors had told you were going to happen. Be pleased that none of them ever happened to you. Ninety percent of the things you worry about never happen anyway.
Bring to question. “I’ve had it” is a good beginning. This first step will start you arguing with your worry thoughts. Soon you will start to examine your fears and worries to see if they are valid. And you won’t let your mind play those mental tricks any longer.
Give Worry A Bad Time
It is possible to destroy any emotion you have, including worry and fear by a very simple process. And that is, analyze it to death. Drag it out on the table and look at it. Weigh it against all of your past experiences. Make sure this one can stand against all the past facts you have. You will now start to use worry instead of letting worry use you. It’s a beginning. Being in control instead of out of control. You will now let concern and the first signs of worry prompt you to learn, ask questions, and look at all sides in order to evaluate true, positive, constructive action.
Now you can say, I will let fear advise me of the facts, but I won’t let fear tell me these are all the facts. Nor will I let fear determine my reaction to the facts. I will gladly take up the war of faith over doubt, reason over fear and positive expectation over worry.
So, talk to yourself right now into a change of attitude. Be persuasive, go all out. Show yourself the hell if you don’t and the good life of answers and progress if you do. Say to yourself, what a fantastic feeling it must be to stop the panic drain on my mental energy, emotion, and physical strength. Imagine putting all that saved energy, and emotion, and strength into my action plans for the good life.
Hey, accept the challenge, believe your beliefs, doubt your doubts, and stay on the campaign to give worry a bad time. Like being your own conscientious judge say, “I’ve had it with the presentation of a one-sided story. I sustain the objection that worry has failed to bring out all the facts. I despise these mental courtroom maneuvers that try to belittle my client – me. I demand the whole truth. And if worry will not be silent, I may cite him for contempt of the court of reason.” Call up that scene often, when worry wants to hassle you with the same old tricks and the same old results. It will work every time.