The difference between a goal oriented person and someone without goals, is like the difference between a Wimbledon champion and a kid batting a tennis ball around on a court with no net.
No opponent to bring out the best in him, and no way of keeping score.
Despite everything that has been written about the importance of goal setting, very few people actually put it into practice.
It always amaze me, how the average guy puts more thoughts and effort in planning is two weeks vacation, than he devotes to planning his life.
Challenge creates strong character, and goals represent challenges in its most positive form.
One of the principle activity of leadership is defining goals for the vast majority of people who aren't able to do it for themselves.
On a sheet of paper write down those 5 headings:
1/ What do I want to do ?
- I want to build my library of books, to catch up on my personal education.
- I want to develop a technique that would help myself and other people in this same situation to absorb the most knowledge in the shortest laps of time possible.
- I want to create my own business to earn the money to support my family
- I want to ride again using the Inmotion V8
2/ What do I want to be ?
- A person who don't react on external situations, who don't get upset or angry to anything.
- Someone with the ability to do great public speaking like Jim Rohn, Steve Chandler, because they are so inspiring.
- Someone who don't waste time in seamless things, be more mindful every minute of the gift of life, and take the most of it.
- A person that is attractive to others, with whom people like to be, inspiring.
- A better husband and father for my family.
3/ What do I want to see ?
- I want to see my dreams comes true
- I want to have vivid dreams in the first place, because I realize I don't. Maybe I don't spend enough time each day dreaming, like a muscle to exercise.
- I want to see my child growing up
4/ What do I want to have ?
- My desire is after I become the person I want to be, I will have the money I need. Maybe I'm too afraid. My fears about not having enough money may be exaggerated. However, I've always put to "to have (money)" before the "the person I want to be". So now that I have a little money aside, I'd like to try the "to be" before the "to have".
5/ Where do I want to go ?
- South America, Peru, Brazil.
- America, Los Angeles
- Actually I'm not that excited to travel the world anymore, I find it most important to be strong inside wherever I am.
Add a few more, time their deadline (1 year, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years). It should be an equal distribution.
Then make a selection. Remove the fun, and Keep only the most important to you.
With a few you can focus on. Now make a detailed description for each of them. Visualize it, and put it down in your journal.
That will become one of your most important personal possession.
Any goal is a powerful motivator only if there's a powerful behind it: why do you want to achieve your goals ?
Write your why's in the same amount of details than you used to write your descriptions.
If you can't find a clear and convincing reason for each of your 16 goals, do some serious re-evaluation. You may have more whims or pipe dreams than reals goals.
Keep working on your list until you have 16 clearly, envision, strongly motivating long term goals.
Review what you've written at time, and keep track of your progress toward these objectives.
Goal setting is a very important first step, but goal achievement is a continuous, life long process.
For the short term goals, less than a year,
I recommend creating lots of objectives that can be accomplished in a month or less.
Write them down, Read what you've written. At frequent intervals. Keep track of your progress. Do something often that brings you closer to realizing these very short time objectives.
That way, you'll always have something to celebrate.
Those goals are not only important in their own rights, they're also confident builders, and motivators, toward a lifestyle based on perseverance and achievement.
Perseverance is as important to goal achievement as gazoline is to driving a car.
The opposite of perseverance is procrastination.
Perseverance means you never quit.
Procrastination means you never get started.
Reasons people often say "I'm a perfectionist".
The perfectionist is saying that his standards are just too high for this world.
But it's actually just an excuse. Roots of procrastination might be:
Fear of failure.
Two tools that foster productivity and perseverance instead of passivity and procrastination.
1. Break it down.
The key to achievement is your ability to break down the task into manageable pieces. And knock them off one at a time.
Focus on accomplishing what's right in front of you at this moment, and ignore what's off in the distance.
Substitute real time positive thinking for negative future visualization.
One day at a time: breaking the time required for a major task down into one day segment.
The beauty is you can break it down in the level of focus you want.
If one page a day is too intimidating, try three sentences in the next hour.
2. Write it down
Describe what you actually do with your time. A diary of your activity.
You're going to be amazed by the distraction, detours, and downright waste of time that you've come up with during the course of the day.
All of these are getting in the way of achieving your goals.
The good thing about keeping a time diary is that it brings all this out in the open. It forces you to see what you're actually doing and what you're not doing.
You should be making an entry in your time diary at least once every 30 min.
And you should keep this up for at least a week.
It's just a process to make yourself aware of how you actually spend your time.
You'll naturally and effortlessly re-organize your life.
Yates noticed Bad people seems to have the most energy. While good people become discouraged and doubtful of their own ability.
The best lack of conviction, while the worse are filled with a passionate intensity.
With whom do you want to share. Who are you working for beside yourself ?
Think in terms of other people: who is depending on you ? Who will benefit if you persevere and succeed ? Who will suffer if you stop trying ? Who you can reach out to, and help when you achieve your goal ?
It isn't just that you'll do better if you feel you're working for others in addition to yourself; You absolutely must find reasons outside yourself to persevere, if you want to keep going when the going get tough.
A man alone hasn't got a chance.
You need people you can help. You need people who can become the real reason for perseverance above and beyond your material possessions.
People of strong character take pride in what they can do for others.